"I have" to
This may be a small thing, but they are the small adjustments in life we make that often make a huge amount of the difference in our lives, and in winning the battles we face.
I stopped saying the phrase "I have to" when I speak to or with others. I stopped this because it just didn't feel right saying it. After a while, I understood in my heart of hearts that "I have to" just wasn't true.. Also, I felt like I speaking as thought I was being dragged to do something I didn't want to do, or not out of my own pleasure to do so. I would just passively continue to say it but I read about someone who spoke about changing your language and then I realized some of the things I was habitually saying was affecting the way I behaved, my attitude and the way I was thinking about my tasks for the day.
I realized attitude can affect emotions and if that attitude is on a downward slope, without realizing it, this [language in this case] can drag us down with it if we don't stop to think about why we say things. I found that we can so easily find ourselves exhausted at the end of the day and have no idea why or how.
Check this out. My attitude now is that, "No one has anyone by the throat and even if they did, I still do not 'have to' do anything", but you can always choose. ALWAYS. So, now on, my attitude is, there are no "have tos" in my life, but there are convictions, and with those convictions there is the clear and wise choice, and with these are things that I feel "must happen", and I believe God can help us to accomplish these things as long as this is His desire as well. God gives us the strength to do everything, and often that is what He gives us is what we find given from within, not from the outside so much; therefore, I changed my language from "I have to" or she has to" into "I am to" and "We are to" and I do feel bad, in fact, I like knowing that I am choosing language that makes me feel good about my decisions and I would encourage you to consider this as well.
"I Am" to
As I mentioned earlier, it came to my attention that language and the small phrases we use on a day to day basis can be and are like the bits we place in a horses mouth to lead the horse wherever we choose. The Bible says, " When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal... Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark." What I hear from this is: Make sure you place the right sparks in your little tongue that points you in the direction God has for you to go.
Instead of saying "I have to go and do this" try saying, "I choose to go and do this" or "I will go and do this". There something a little more healthy about saying the latter, but a little bit everyday makes a big difference in the long run. There are even some bits of language that I am getting rid of that suggests bits of laziness or procrastination to set in, like "I'm about to" or just habitually using the word "later" too often at the end of every obligatory statement. Instead, I'm leaving those words and leaning more on words that help me to say the phrase, "I will....[on a specific estimated date and/or time]. You'll find that you're energy will be higher and higher and you will habitually have higher expectations of what God is going to do in your life just by the small adjustments of the words that you speak out loud.
As I mentioned, as you place the right sparks in your little tongue that points you in the direction God has for you to go, you will flourish, you will thrive, and you will find success as you speak the word of God.
If you'd like to accept Jesus into your life today, pray this simple prayer of God's love and grace today: Lord Jesus, I thank you for dying for all my sin; now Lord I invite you into my heart. Come and be my everything today and forever. Forgive my sin as I make You and you alone Lord in my life. Amen. Now read the book of God's love in the Bible: The book of John chapters 1-21. God promises He will guide your life. Pray and ask God to bring the right people into your life. God will guide you to the right church full of people who love His words in the Bible. Our God is so faithful. God bless you today.