Sunday, June 7, 2020

HOW TO MAKE A DIFFICULT CONVERSATION MORE PRODUCTIVE









The first thing is to have a real celebratory attitude whenever you come into contact and have a conversation with someone who doesn't have the same point of view as you do. If they don't have the same point of view as you but they want to enter in a conversation with you that is something really worth celebrating because they are willing to have this conversation.



Secondly is to know and recognize that perfection is not the goal here.  Remember you are both imperfect people just trying to understand each other better.  This relieves the intense need to have your way, and instead you take the seat of a learner to learn more about that person.  Don't try to MAKE them only know your point of view. Make sure they know that you sincerely want to hear their's as well.   



Number three is listen and acknowledge, listen and acknowledge, and then listen and acknowledge.  This is a skill that is an ongoing process. It will get better and better as you practice it.  It works either by text or by conversation.  If it is by text, respond by acknowledging what they said so that they know that you understood what they said. If it is by conversation you can say "let me take a second to make sure I understand you right...". Then reiterate what they said and say "Is that right?" Try not to make it so that you're just doing this as a routine-- get it out the way so that you can just blast them with your ideas. But you definitely want to make sure that you were clear in letting them know your point of view and why you feel the way you do.



Finally in a conversation there is always given take, so be willing to enter into conversation and leaving with something that you didn't know before or having an understanding of another point of view that you didn't have before. It doesn't mean that you lost or won it means that you gain something from being humble and just understanding their point of view.








 If you'd like to accept Jesus into your life today, pray this simple prayer of God's love and grace today:

Lord Jesus, I thank you for dying for all my sin; now Lord I invite you into my heart. Come and be my everything today and forever. Forgive my sin as I make You and you alone Lord in my life. Amen.

Now read the book of God's love in the Bible: The book of John chapters 1-21. God promises He will guide your life. Pray and ask God to bring the right people into your life. God will guide you to the right church full of people who love His words in the Bible. Our God is so faithful. God bless you today.

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